How to Fail Forward.
How do you view a “fail”?
My hairstyle fails with my gray hair recently made me think of one of my favorite quotes from Lisa Nichols. She says when we fail to “fail forward.” I loved it. She redefines what failure means. It made sense that a “fail” does not have to mean something bad. It means we learned something. Oprah says “no experience is wasted.” A “fail “is an experience, right? So when you don’t allow an “experience” to go by without seeing the lesson or how you can do better the next time, than you have failed forward.
What a toddler teaches us about a ‘fall”.
We sometimes spend so much time trying to avoid trying something we think we will “fail” at. The truth is when we try new things we are not going to do well on the first try. My son taught me that when he was learning how to walk. He fell, then got back up and when he fell he didn’t give up on walking, he was determined.
What I have learned this week.
Learn to ‘fail forward’!
From my perm rod fail I learned what my hair likes and does not like and also what to do differently.
I also learned from my flareup that I can do better with boundaries on my time.
I was able to tolerate the discomfort of enforcing my boundaries this week and seeing the benefits of doing so. The discomfort is temporary compared to the benefits.
The courage to be imperfect.
With my podcast, I learned the courage to be imperfect and allow myself to start messy as long as I start. Jasmine Star likes to say take “messy action.” The more I practice the better I will get with each episode. That also takes the pressure off everything having to be “perfect” which becomes the enemy of something “good enough”.There is also something courageous about sharing our “fails” because it accomplishes three things.
We let others know they are not alone.
We encourage others to be comfortable with starting where they are.
They also can learn from our mistakes.
What you can do.
I hope this inspired you to redefine a “fail” and instead see the lesson in:
What you can do better.
What you can do differently.
What you can release that is not serving you anymore.
Starting something that you have been putting off.
Make sure to give yourself a clap 👏🏼 for making it through another week no matter how hard it was. You did the best you could with what you had and that is a win!
Remember love is the best motivator for change so bring love and compassion to every journey you are on. 🦋
